The Midlife Reset
You are not crazy. You are not broken. You are navigating one of the most complex physiological and psychological transitions of your life.
Midlife for women is not simple.
It is not “just stress.”
It is not “just hormones.”
It is not a personality flaw.
It is not you failing to cope.
It is a profound neurobiological, hormonal, psychological, and relational shift — often happening all at once.
Sleep changes.
Mood shifts.
Pain appears or intensifies.
Weight fluctuates.
Trauma resurfaces.
Your tolerance for dysfunction gets lower.
Your boundaries get sharper.
Your identity feels… unfamiliar.
And far too often, women are dismissed.
You’re told it’s normal.
You’re told to relax.
You’re told to try a supplement.
You’re told to “just wait it out.”
But midlife is not something to survive.
It is something to understand.
And when understood holistically, it can become one of the most clarifying and powerful seasons of your life.
This is where The Midlife Reset begins.
The Midlife Reset is not…
HORMONE COACHING.
THIS IS NOT BIOHACKING.
AND ITS NOT GASLIGHTING.
This is a whole-bodied, trauma-informed, psychologically grounded approach to midlife health and identity.
My PhD is in Mind-Body Medicine. For over 15 years, I have worked at the intersection of trauma, physiology, identity, and relational dynamics. I understand how the nervous system stores stress. I understand how trauma resurfaces when the body changes. I understand how power, control, family systems, religion, sexuality, and shame shape women’s lives.
I also understand that mental and physical health are not separate systems. They are constantly influencing one another. Hormonal shifts affect mood, sleep, inflammation, and stress tolerance. Chronic stress affects hormones. Trauma affects the HPA axis. Relational safety affects the nervous system.
Midlife is not simply aging. It is a neurobiological transition layered on top of a lifetime of lived experience. Hormones shift and your mood shifts. Sleep changes and your coping changes. Inflammation rises and your stress tolerance narrows. Trauma that once felt resolved may feel closer to the surface. Boundaries that once felt flexible may suddenly feel non-negotiable.
And sometimes, in the middle of it, you look in the mirror and think, “Who is this?”
That does not mean you are broken. It means your system is adapting.
Midlife is not just a hormone story. It is a whole-bodied recalibration. And when everything feels unfamiliar, what you need is not dismissal or minimization — you need integrated, thoughtful support.
Midlife does not happen in a vacuum.
Nervous system regulation
Trauma history
Family dynamics
Marriage or partnership shifts
Sexuality and desire
Career identity
Hormones intersect with:
Chronic pain and inflammation
Body image and GLP-1 use
Boundaries with aging parents
Grief
“I’m not myself” moments
…the perimenopausal stage is associated with the most elevated risk for depressive symptoms and depression diagnoses compared to premenopause. (Badawy et al., 2024)
Research shows that…
…lifetime intimate partner violence and sexual assault—and especially current clinically significant PTSD symptoms—were associated with more sleep difficulty, vasomotor symptoms (hot flashes/night sweats), and vaginal symptoms. (Gibson et al., 2019)
…women commonly report subjective cognitive changes during perimenopause, including memory and attention concerns. (Weber et al., 2014)
…childhood trauma and abuse are associated with more intense vasomotor symptoms and sleep disruptions during midlife. Your body remembers. Your nervous system remembers.(Carson & Thurston 2019)
…the menopausal transition represents a period of increased biological sensitivity in which stress exposure may have amplified effects on mood and health outcomes. (Gordon et al., 2015)
…attention and executive-function difficulties are a common complaint during the menopause transition, even among women without a prior ADHD history. (Epperson et al., 2011)
…PTSD symptoms (considered both as a diagnosis and as specific symptom dimensions) are associated with menopause-related health concerns, including the degree to which symptoms interfere with daily life. (Thomas et al., 2024)
You are not imagining it.
The Midlife Reset integrates the physical, psychological, and relational dimensions of this transition — while helping you build the care team you deserve.
I am not a hormone prescriber.
I am not a nutritionist.
But I am trained to think holistically. To see patterns. To identify when additional support is needed. To collaborate. To help you advocate for yourself with medical providers. To help you stabilize your nervous system while your body recalibrates.
This is integration work.
Who is this for?
The Midlife Reset is designed for women and AFAB individuals navigating perimenopause, menopause, and beyond.
This program may be a good fit if:
You feel like your body and emotions have changed in ways you do not fully understand
Trauma or old relational patterns are resurfacing
You are experiencing new or worsening ADHD symptoms or executive-function challenges (brain fog, overwhelm, time blindness, reduced organization, difficulty initiating tasks), and your usual coping skills feel less effective
You are rethinking boundaries, relationships, or sexuality
You are navigating chronic pain, inflammation, fatigue, or autoimmune diseases
You are using or considering GLP-1 medications and noticing psychological shifts
You want a care team, not just one provider
You want structured, strategic, whole-bodied support
This program is not psychotherapy and does not replace medical or mental health treatment. It is not appropriate for individuals in acute psychiatric crises or requiring emergency care.
I am inclusive of non-binary and trans individuals experiencing midlife hormonal transitions. At the same time, I recognize that I do not hold lived experience within those identities and may recommend additional specialized providers when appropriate.
THE STRUCTURE
The Midlife Reset is a 6-month coaching program designed to be both structured and individualized.
Enrollment is limited.
Program Includes:
Initial 90-Minute Assessment
A comprehensive intake reviewing physical health history, trauma history, relational dynamics, current stressors, goals, and care-team considerations.
Four 60-Minute Deep-Dive Sessions
Focused work on the goals identified in your assessment. Topics may include nervous system regulation, identity shifts, trauma integration, relational boundaries, sexual ethics, communication strategies, GLP-1 psychology, mood stabilization, or collaborative care planning.
Final 60-Minute Integration Session
Reflection, consolidation, and strategic planning for next steps. You are never required to continue working with me; coaching may be one option among many for continued care.
Unlimited Voxer Support
Monday–Thursday, 9am–4pm CST
Voxer is intended for:
Brief reflections
Clarifying questions
Resource recommendations
Accountability and integration support
Voxer is not therapy, crisis intervention, or emergency support. Confidentiality and its limitations apply to all Voxer interactions. If a situation requires deeper processing, I may recommend scheduling an additional session.
Midlife Reset E-Book
All participants in the Midlife Reset program will receive an e-book which provides education, worksheets, nervous system interventions, and resources.
Additional Sessions or Collaboration Calls may be added as needed.
All clients sign a detailed coaching agreement outlining scope, boundaries, confidentiality, and expectations.
Investment
Enrollment is limited to ensure thoughtful, high-quality support. When capacity is reached, applicants will be placed on a waitlist and invited to begin when space becomes available.
One-time Payment
$2,600
Monthly Payment Plan
6 payments of
$500
Screening Process
Step 1: Complete a brief application.
Step 2: Schedule a 20-minute consultation call.
This ensures the program is aligned with your needs and that you are open to building a comprehensive care team when appropriate.
For Professionals: Trauma-Informed Midlife Consultation
For physicians, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, psychologists, therapists, coaches, academics, and other providers seeking to better understand the psychological and relational dimensions of midlife care.
Consultation topics may include:
Trauma-informed assessment in midlife
Nervous system-based interventions
Religious trauma and purity culture considerations
Communication strategies with complex patients
Psychological impacts of GLP-1 medications
Domestic violence and relational power dynamics
Narcissistic family systems
Case consultation and staffing
Investment
Individual/Dyad Consultation
90 minutes: $600
120 minutes: $800
Group Consultation (3–8 people)
120 minutes: $300 per person for first three participants
$100 per additional participant (up to 8)
Large Group Consultation (9+)
Minimum 180 minutes
Base rate: $1,800
Customized price based on scope and preparation.
All consultation includes preparation and follow-up resources. Inquire through the website to begin.
Midlife does not require you to shrink.
It does not require you to silence your body.
It does not require you to tolerate dysfunction.
It requires integration.
If you are ready for structured, whole-bodied, trauma-informed support during this transition, apply below.
FAQs
Have any other questions? Contact me and I'll be happy to answer.
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No. The Midlife Reset is a coaching program. It is not psychotherapy and does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. It does not replace medical care, psychiatric treatment, or emergency services. If higher levels of care are indicated, I will recommend appropriate referrals.
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Therapy focuses on clinical treatment of mental health concerns. The Midlife Reset is structured, goal-oriented coaching centered on midlife integration, nervous system stabilization, identity shifts, relational clarity, and holistic care planning. Coaching may complement therapy but does not replace it.
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That is completely appropriate. Many women benefit from having both a therapist and a midlife-focused coach who can address broader integration, care-team collaboration, and strategic planning.
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You are not alone. Many women struggle to find providers who are informed about midlife research or who take their lived experience seriously. While I do not require that you have an established provider, part of our work may include identifying and building a care team that feels aligned and informed.
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Voxer support is available Monday–Thursday, 9am–4pm CST with a 48-hour response window. Voxer is intended for brief reflections, clarifying questions, resource requests, and accountability support. It is not therapy, crisis intervention, or emergency care. Confidentiality and its limitations apply to all Voxer interactions. If something requires deeper processing, I may recommend scheduling an additional session.
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Additional sessions or collaboration calls may be scheduled as needed. If a higher level of care becomes appropriate, I will provide referrals and recommendations.
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At the end of the program, we will have an integration session to review progress and determine next steps. You are not required to continue working with me. Continued coaching with me may be an option, along with other referrals and resources.
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The Midlife Reset is designed for women and AFAB individuals navigating midlife. I am inclusive of non-binary and trans individuals experiencing hormonal transitions, while also recognizing that I do not hold lived experience within those identities and may recommend additional specialized support when appropriate.
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That’s exactly why there is an application and consultation call. We will determine together whether this program aligns with your goals and needs.
References
Badawy, Y., Spector, A., Li, Z., & Desai, R. (2024). The risk of depression in the menopausal stages: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Affective Disorders, 357, 126–133. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2024.04.041
Carson, M. Y., & Thurston, R. C. (2019). Childhood abuse and vasomotor symptoms among midlife women. Menopause, 26(10), 1093–1099. https://doi.org/10.1097/GME.0000000000001366
Epperson, C. N., Pittman, B., Czarkowski, K. A., Bradley, J., Quinlan, D. M., & Brown, T. E. (2011). Impact of atomoxetine on subjective attention and memory difficulties in perimenopausal and postmenopausal women. Menopause, 18(5), 542–548. https://doi.org/10.1097/gme.0b013e3181fcafd6
Gibson, C. J., Huang, A. J., McCaw, B., Subak, L. L., Thom, D. H., & Van Den Eeden, S. K. (2019). Associations of intimate partner violence, sexual assault, and posttraumatic stress disorder with menopause symptoms among midlife and older women. JAMA Internal Medicine, 179(1), 80–87. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamainternmed.2018.5233
Gordon, J. L., Rubinow, D. R., Eisenlohr-Moul, T. A., Xia, K., Schmidt, P. J., & Girdler, S. S. (2015). Efficacy of escitalopram for perimenopausal depression: A randomized controlled trial. Archives of Women’s Mental Health, 18(4), 551–561.
Thomas, J. L., Blanken, A. E., Huang, A. J., Maguen, S., Gibson, C. J., & Sumner, J. A. (2024). Dimensions of posttraumatic stress disorder and menopause-related health in midlife women veterans. Menopause, 31(10), 842–852. https://doi.org/10.1097/GME.0000000000002410
Thurston, R. C., Bromberger, J. T., Chang, Y., Goldbacher, E., Brown, C., Cyranowski, J. M., & Matthews, K. A. (2008). Childhood abuse or neglect is associated with increased vasomotor symptom reporting among midlife women. Menopause, 15(1), 16–22.
Weber, M. T., Maki, P. M., & McDermott, M. P. (2014). Cognition and mood in perimenopause: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Steroid Biochemistry and Molecular Biology, 142, 90–98. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsbmb.2013.06.001
